לבישת טלית גדול קודם הנישואין

Source: Igros Kodesh, vol. 12, no. 4261.

In the Alter Rebbe's Shulchan Aruch: Orach Chaim, Siman 128.

1. The Question of Wearing a Talis Gadol Before Marriage

Today’s discussion, dated (the 15th of Iyar?), centers on the practice of wearing a talis gadol—large prayer shawl—before marriage. In many communities, particularly among Sephardim, it is common to see unmarried men donning a talis gadol. This raises the question: should one adopt this practice if it is not the norm in his own community?

A person wrote to the Rebbe asking whether he should begin wearing a talis gadol before marriage, as is customary among Sephardim, or if he should wait until after marriage, following Ashkenazic custom.

2. The Rebbe’s Guidance: Following Local Custom

The Rebbe responded that in matters such as these, each individual should adhere to the custom (minhag—established practice) of the area in which he finds himself. If one lives in a place where unmarried men do not wear a talis gadol, he should not deviate from that custom. Conversely, if the local practice is to wear it before marriage, then he should follow suit.

This approach emphasizes the importance of communal norms and continuity in Jewish practice. The Rebbe’s guidance reflects sensitivity to both personal background and the traditions upheld by one’s current community.

3. Exception for Dukhaning: Obligation for Kohanim

However, the Rebbe made an important exception regarding dukhaning—the priestly blessing performed by Kohanim. He stated that regardless of one’s personal or communal custom about wearing a talis gadol, during dukhaning, a Kohen must wear a talis gadol. There is no room for differing customs in this context; it is an absolute requirement.

This ruling underscores that certain halachic obligations override local custom when it comes to specific mitzvos such as dukhaning. For a Kohen, participation in this ritual necessitates donning a talis gadol, irrespective of marital status or prevailing community practices.