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1. The Test of Kindness for Rivkah

In this week’s parsha, Chayei Sarah—the life of Sarah, we encounter the central theme of kindness. When Avraham’s servant set out to find a suitable match for Yitzchak, he devised a test rooted in chesed—kindness. The sign would be that when he asked a young woman for water, if she not only gave him to drink but also offered to water his camels, that would indicate she was fitting to enter the home of Avraham and become Yitzchak’s wife. As Rashi explains, this act would demonstrate that she possessed the special quality necessary for such a household.

2. Going Beyond What Is Asked

The question arises: why was it not enough for Rivkah simply to offer Eliezer a drink? Why did she need to go beyond and offer water to the camels as well? If she had only fulfilled what was requested, it would not have been sufficient proof of her worthiness. Only by offering more than what was asked did she show herself deserving. Rashi notes that even before Rivkah completed her act, Eliezer already sensed something extraordinary about her—he saw the water from the well rising toward her, indicating her righteousness. Yet, it was specifically her willingness to do more than required that confirmed her suitability.

3. Levels and Expressions of Kindness

Kindness can manifest in many ways: with one’s body (b’gufo), with one’s money (b’mamono), or with one’s soul (b’nafsho). Some people express kindness by writing a check or making a donation—an act that is certainly commendable but involves only their possessions. Others may offer kind words, encouragement, or even just a smile—helping another emotionally or spiritually. However, there is an even higher level: physically exerting oneself for another’s benefit. To trouble oneself physically demonstrates a deeper commitment to chesed, as it requires giving up comfort and convenience.

4. Rivkah’s Physical Effort and Its Significance

Rivkah’s actions went far beyond mere words or monetary help. According to Chazal, she was just over three years old at the time, yet she ran repeatedly to draw water from the well until all the camels finished drinking—a significant physical effort considering how much camels can consume when thirsty. This wasn’t simply about hospitality or inviting someone into her home; it was about exerting herself physically in service of another person’s needs.

5. The Halachic Perspective on Helping Others

There is a halachic principle regarding helping someone load their donkey: if the owner sits back and expects you to do all the work alone, there is no mitzvah fulfilled—the owner must participate as well. Similarly, if Rivkah had looked for ways to avoid exertion by suggesting Eliezer handle the task himself, it would not have demonstrated true kindness. Instead, despite being young and having every reason not to take on such labor, she ran back and forth tirelessly.

6. Lessons for Our Own Acts of Chesed

This story teaches us an important lesson: while donating money or offering kind words are valuable forms of chesed, there is unique significance in acts that require personal effort and inconvenience. Helping an elderly person carry packages or physically assisting others are examples of this higher level of kindness. In our own lives, we should seek opportunities not only to give financially or emotionally but also physically when possible.

7. The Legacy of Chesed in Am Yisrael

Rivkah’s willingness to go above and beyond became the very trait that made her worthy of becoming a matriarch in Israel. This legacy continues through our ancestors—Sarah, Rivkah, Rachel, Leah, Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov—and defines us as rachmanim bnei rachmanim gemilei chasadim—a compassionate nation who perform acts of kindness. By following their example and living up to the ideals expressed in Chayei Sarah, we perpetuate their eternal life through our deeds.

8. The Reward for True Kindness

When we act with genuine kindness—especially when it involves personal effort—we open ourselves up to receive unlimited blessings from HaKadosh Baruch Hu. Just as Rivkah became worthy of all blessings through her acts of chesed, so too do we merit Hashem’s kindness when we emulate these qualities in our own lives.